I sought the guidance of Jan as a parenting coach when I was trying to deal with my 12 year old son’s challenging behaviour which was leaving me feeling both confused and a failure as a parent. During Jan’s coaching I felt my distress had been heard and understood. Jan pointed out some of the positive things I was doing with my son which I had lost sight of and this helped me to blame myself less.Jan also enabled me to gently question myself about where some of my feelings and reactions were coming from and helped me to recognise that I needed to try to see behind my son’s behaviour rather than react to it. I felt a weight lift and definately felt there was hope whereas before the session I had felt a huge block developing between my son and myself. I began to feel I could take steps to move on and help my son to do the same. Jan helped me to identify some small but significant changes I could make in the way I was communicating with my son which I have been trying out. From my feeling of having failed when I first saught Jan’s advice, I now feel I can recognise that I am indeed a human being who can make mistakes but can also learn how to do things differently; an immensely important piece of learning which I can pass onto my son. Jan’s coaching has been invaluable to me as a parent. I could not have moved on in my parenting without it. Thank you.
